Is Tristan the gayest name ever?

Don't even bother coming out if that is your name.

Oh I don't know. John Wayne's real first name was Marion. And there was Merle Haggard, Carroll O'Connor, Stacy Keach, Leslie Nielson, and DL fave, Miss Lindsey Graham.

Sebastian and Rupert flag pink, not that there's anything wrong with that.

I've known at least five dogs named Tristan.

Are they gay, R5?

I doubt there are truly "gay names" but has anyone else noticed that many gay men seem to insist you call them by their full name? Not Jeff... Jeffrey. Not Steve... Steven. Not Jon... Jonathan. I've lost track of all the gay guys who have stated their name like this (or corrected me) on this over the years, and now I just say their full names by default. My cousin is named Joshua and my aunt (his mom) used to get mad when I called him Josh. I told her, well he's gonna be gay then... and got the most angry look.

It could be worse. I work with someone unfortunately named "Trisdin." I don't have the heart to ask him if he knows that his name has a rich literary/mythological history. I once met a Philemon who was completely unaware of the touching Baucis & Philemon myth. This man was over 60 and had no idea he had a somewhat famous Greek namesake.

Dogs named Tristan? In the PNW, there are thousands upon thousands of rambunctious dogs named Loki. Every owner is convinced of their originality, and will confide in you, "He's the Norse god of mischief, you know."

Tarquin and Sheridan, surely.

Steven is an illiterate misspelling of the correct Stephen, from the Greek word for laurel crown.

Brad owns this thread, as does Bradley.

Larc sounds pretty gay as well.

Quite true generally speaking, R6.

I had always heard Lance and Bruce were the faggiest names going. Men named Kelly get my 'dar up as well.

I knew a guy named Gaylen. He was straight but still.

Unisex names that I usually associate with females, like:

Camille

Carmel

Patrice

Christy

Gaylord Focker. Just saying.

Beauregard certainly ranks in the top five gay names.

Gay Gayerson is the classic old gay name.

Also Gaylord used to be such an accepted name you can find it in many old films and stage plays where it is used without irony.

Percy or, God help us, Percival

R16 those are female, not unisex names, in the US, at least.

Franz

Francis

Florenz/Florent/Florencio

[Quote][R16] those are female, not unisex names, in the US, at least.

No, R21. Those are unisex names that generally given to females in the US.

R13 Lance is simply child abuse

There aren't any gay names. Come on now.

That old b.s. about Lance and Bruce is so stupid. I guess it came from gay erotica? Where the writers wanted to imbue their characters with as much caricatured masculinity as possible (think Tom of Finland drawings), they named them thusly.

But there are no statistics that show that men with certain first names are more likely to be gay than other men with "straighter" names.

In the UK, Hilary is an upper class male name.

R32, whose name is Bartholomew Aloysius Preudhomme

I named my twins Tristan and Dristan!

No, OP, you worthl du..f.

R33 Add Vivian, Beverly & Kim to that. Robin too, but thats lower class in Britain.

I have never met a Tristan who wasn't canine and under fifteen pounds.

Julian. Now that's the gayest name I've ever heard of.

There's obviously a USA - Commonwealth split here (see: signet/pinky rings). Julian is not a very common American name, nor is Tristan. Not often, but I have run across American guys named Kim.

R16's names are female, not unisex. Chris isn't so much gay male, as lesbian (butch sounding).

Perry always struck me as a wimpy name.

There are no "gay" names, per se, but your typical, heterosexual parent associate certain names as "gay".

This was called Shirley Crabtree - Unsurprisingly as a pro wrestler he chose the name 'Big Daddy'

What about my name? It's Wilberforce Claybourne.

You know that Wilberforce as a christian name was used in tribute to the man that helped abolish the slave trade in The British Empire?

There were a few Tristan's around she I was growing up, but the name was considered fairly low rent. It was more redneck than gay. I never meet grown men named Tristan though. I don't know where they went.

Isadore owns this thread.

What about Nathan....sounds sissy to me

I need a judgement call on the name "Loren" for men

R51 - I once went out with a guy name Lorin (this spelling). He was named after conductor Lorin Maazel. It's a legitimate name.

I know its a legitimate name, r52... very very (very) well. (Just wondered how gay it seems)

It's just a variation of Lawrence, which itself is a bit out of fashion - but I wouldn't say too gay

I happen to like the name Tristan.

Tristram is gayer. But usually in the UK both are indicative of coming from an upper class or upper middle class background ( I know...the English and all our class BS ). Used to know a Peregrine and a Torquil. The latter had a somewhat outlandish double-barrelled surname as well. Know a Crispin who isn't posh and painfully aware of how it sounds. A late friend was called Sebastian. He was a dandy, slept with both men and women and even had himself crucified in the name of art. Overdosed almost inevitably. I actually think any name with an added "y" sounds gay. Kenny. Timmy. Bobby.

[Quote][R16]'s names are female, not unisex.

WRONG, r41.

Perhaps among French/Francophiles, but among Anglos it's female.

Not if you spell Camille as "Kamil"!

If you want to see a cute Tristan - check out List25 on YouTube.

I feel confident, OP, that Isolde would disagree with you.

Isn't Tristan an Irish name? I know 3 Tristans, 2 Irishmen and one American of Irish descent. And there is the great love tale of Tristan and Iseult. Richard Wagner immortalized the story in an opera by the same name. I've never thought of it as sounding gay, like Jeffery.

R64 There is nothing gay sounding about Jeff/Geoff/Jeffrey. With Tristan, there is dick breath that comes with having that name.

gayest names = the common names of the era

I know two Tristans, and they are two of the best people I know—both of them are kind, smart, and funny. And, yes, both of them are gay.

my name is Stacey and I'm gay.

Wasn't Bruce considered the gayest name?

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